As a parent I try to consider very seriously the words I use when I'm talking to my kids. Gender issues and boundary issues are probably at the forefront of my mind most of the time - encouraging them to be themselves, make their own choices. Towards that end, I try to avoid saying "good girl" when I want to affirm their behaviour. I thought "good job" was a better choice since it was less about their identity as an acceptable person and more about the action or behaviour. This article takes that idea to a whole new level and I love it. I think it is a very important reminder to consider what it is, exactly, that you are trying to encourage in your child and then find a way to articulate that in a way they can understand.